Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Being a mother of 3

I have long felt that the jump from 2 kids to 3 kids was going to be the most difficult for me. Personally, 1 kid was easy peasy... she could go anywhere we went with minimal extra effort. The hardest thing was probably remembering everything to keep in the diaper bag and that couldn’t really be considered hard.
When we (quickly) took the jump from 1 to 2 I wasn’t really concerned. 2 kids plus 2 arms equaled still totally doable. Hayden could walk well by the time Bryar was born so it just worked. 
       It was only when we thought about a baby #3 that my heart would stutter ever so slightly. We were going to wait a while, take a small baby break and let the girls grow a bit, but then we got the call about our new baby girl and we both instantly felt right about it. Never mind the fact Bryar isn’t even 1 and still isn’t walking, nevermind that would be 3 kids in 3 years (aka 3 kids 2 and under...) we just said yes and took the plunge. And I have to say that while I have my moments of going crazy, it isn’t nearly as difficult as I thought it could be! While I now wait to do some things until Ben is off work and can either go with me or watch the girls while I go, I have found that I am actually still able to do a lot of things with just the 3 girls and me. I go to Target and walmart or anywhere else that has a cart (Baby girl in her carseat in the main part of the cart, Bryar in the child seat of the cart and Hayden walking or holding on to the side and riding) and feel pretty good about what am I able to accomplish. Overall, 2 to 3 has been quite a bit better than I expected it to be.
       A few things though...
*If you see me in a store, feel free to NOT stare at me like I’m a freak or a baby factory or something. It is CRAZY how much people unabashedly stare at us! Even when I look at them and they can see that I see them, they continue to stare! I appreciate that we are somewhat of a spectacle and I would probably look at me too, but sheesh! I would even mind less if it looked like plain curiosity, but sometimes people just glare at bizarre!
*”Wow, you guys have been busy!” is a really awkward thing to say. Seriously.
* A do you get all 3 kids inside when they have all fallen asleep in the car? Does anyone know where one could purchase an extra arm? Because man that would be convenient...
* There is really no way to know what our future is with our sweet new addition, but if we did end up keeping her permanently we would be SO grateful! But can you imagine 10 to 15 years from now?! I mean really...13, 14 and 15?! 15, 16 and 17? 19, 20 and 21? I’m kind of panicking just thinking about all that estrogen. After giving it serious consideration I think we figured out that the only time it won’t be TOO insane around here would be when they are like 4, 5 and 6 up till 8, 9 and 10. Either way though we couldn’t be more excited about our family right now and while MANY people think we’re crazy (or at least stare at us like we are) we are as happy as can be :)


  1. Look at your super mom!!! It will all work out and you are amazing!

  2. You're so awesome and cute, Heather!!! You've given me hope especially because my kids are older. But anyway, if anyone can do it, you can. My Stake President's wife shared a story once that I cannot forget. She had two young kids with her at the store, and was expecting. Someone blatantly asked her if she'd learned her lesson. She told them they should meet the three that are old enough to be in school! I love that woman! She is up to nine kids now. :)

  3. All 3 girls are lucky to have you! I can't believe you can easily handle 3 girls under 3 years old. amazing.

  4. You guys are super stars! I think 2 was easy but also fear 3. Thankfully I have you to give me all the tips!